Truth is, I’ll never know all there is to know about you just as you will never know all there is to know about me. Humans are by nature too complicated to be understood fully. So, we can choose either to approach our fellow human beings with suspicion or to approach them with an open mind, a dash of optimism and a great deal of candour
|Thomas Jeffrey Hanks//an American actor and filmmaker|.
Majority of human relationships nowadays seem more competitive, calculated and staged than supportive, free, open and blissful. A consequence of the complex nature of humans as alluded by Tom Hanks, perhaps? I believe that the nature of our relationships would be less complex if we walked in truth.
I’ve heard that the truth hurts, so many prefer to masquerade it with lies. But I’ve also heard that in every lie there is some truth…guess we can’t really run from truth, huh? In fact, a British preacher called Charles Spurgeon said it best: A lie can travel half way around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes.
For this reason, I made the decision to walk in truth at the beginning of 2016. I have found it extremely liberating so far. Before you go, “Preach Whitney. Preach!” Let me use some experiences to show you how some truths should become an integral part of every human being.
I met this girl called Monica while in college. Monica seemed outgoing, stylish and with-it. We had different values, which did not augur well with me, but because through Monica I could have numerous amazing weekend plans, I swept my friendship preferences under the rag and made sure they stayed there. One night,we went out to Westlands and downed tequila like our lives depended on it. By midnight, I was that girl staggering to the club’s bathroom to puke with eyes half open. Monica came in the bathroom and offered to hold my handbag while I puked.
When we got back to our seats, Monica excused herself to go say hi to someone outside the club. Twenty minutes later, Monica wasn’t back! I popped my clutch open to get my phone but hey…it was missing. I poured everything on the lounge’s couch and desperately racked through my stuff only to realize that my money was missing as well. How the heck was I supposed to get home? Twenty two freaking kilometers away! Well, that night ended badly and when I confronted Monica in class on Monday, she was extremely angered that I thought she was the thief.
If I had accepted the truth about Monica being an unsuitable friend for me, then my bag wouldn’t have magically swallowed my phone and money that night.Truth is…there is no honour in counting your last breath on some human relationships.
In 2012, Cecilia;-a childhood friend of mine-decided to settle on a celibacy vow. She felt that she had given her body and heart to the wrong men and her heart was beginning to turn cold and black from the hurt. One year nine months later, she met Michael while out on a reporting assignment. They hit it off and went on a couple of dates over the next few months. On the night that he lay with her, he confessed to having a girlfriend. She was already in too deep. And you know the heart…it wants what it wants!
Their sneaky relationship went on aggressively and even caused the end of Michael’s four year relationship. However, for them to reach that point Cecilia had become a clingy, overcompensating and I-am-better-than-her pain in the ass. She hated herself.You know what James Bay says about the kind of change where you can’t recognize yourself anymore: When we’re becoming something else, I think it’s time to walk away. Moreover, she began to question his loyalty now that he walked out of such a long relationship. She left.
Truth is…a victim of distraction is headed for destruction. Anything that isn’t your intention shouldn’t get your attention. You’re more likely to fall for distraction if you choose to go with how you feel rather than what you know because truth is… (Jeremiah 17:9 NIV): The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?
I need not give a narrative for this bad ass. We have all met her a time or two after thinking we had gotten away with some vice. Truth is…the world neither forgives nor forgets and the wage of sin is death.Creflo Dollar defined sin for me in the best way possible: Sin is when you miss the mark. The mark set by God. Taking the wrong turn at a crossroad, perhaps. Poor choices. Arrogance. Ignorance.Death in this case is in the perspective of hurt, loneliness, pain, bitterness, bankruptcy etc. I wonder what karma has planned for Pastor Kanyari after his potassium permanganate, KShs 310/= miracles. Mhhh.
(If you have no idea who Pastor Kanyari is and what he did, watch the video here)
No need for a narrative on this one too. Truth is…if you cannot do it for you, you won’t do it gracefully, happily and naturally for someone else. Ever heard something like Babe I love my bottle but since you’re not happy with the behaviour I will stop for you? Run, my friend. Very fast! Can someone walk into your life and really cause you a sudden, revolutionary come-to-Jesus moment? Can someone truly cause you a healthy 360 degrees transformation without making them your god…whereby if they walked away you would tumble back down and shutter into a million lifeless pieces?
As I summarize, can a sister get an Amen?! The world surely needs more genuine people who are not only made genuine by their kind heart but also through abiding love for the truth. In truth, we can have more of us being drawn towards human relationships rather than being drawn towards dying alone. But you know what…to die alone can be done with ease. But to live together requires work. Work that cannot be done alone. I need you. You need me. We need truth. Amen?